When it comes to dating, there are a lot of myths going around. It’s almost like people want to make young ladies feel self-conscious and encourage them to pretend to be someone they are not. Crazy, huh?
Over the weekend I had a long heart-to-heart with a couple of friends regarding the things that their own friends and even magazines were telling them when they began dating. Here’s what we came up with:
- Guys don’t like intelligent women. Because there are no married, female scientists, doctors, CEOs, etc. Oh, wait. There are.
- Guys don’t like funny women. Because there are no married comediennes. (If you think about this one for a minute, you’ll come up with at least 10. Seriously.)
- Playing hard-to-get is the way you pique a guy’s interest. Actually, most guys I know thought the girl wasn’t interested and eventually moved on. Better to be upfront about things. Don’t immediately change your relationship status on Facebook but definitely hangout if you want to hangout.
- You’ll know you’ve met “the one” the second you meet. You’ve seen the romantic movies and read enough books that it must be true! Wrong. (Although, wouldn’t that be nice?) Talk to your married friends. It took many of them years to figure out they were a good match.
- You have to be perfect to find a mate. The word “perfect” is rarely used but the implications are that your hair must be impeccably styled, your skin flawless, your figure hourglass… But just look at your friends and acquaintances who are married. Guaranteed none of them are perfect.
The bottom line here? Be yourself. Be a little brave, sometimes when it comes to dating. And if the guy you’re dating doesn’t like you the way you are, you’re with the wrong guy.